Why Tiger Moms Should Let Children Fail - Children who earn the best grades in school don't always become high achievers

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Children who earn the best grades in school don't always become high achievers, says Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg, of the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia. He tells why parents should sometimes let their children fail under their watch so they can be more resilient, successful adults. Here is the WSJ video:



The 7 Cs: The Essential Building Blocks of Resilience - by Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg

Competence: When we notice what young people are doing right and give them opportunities to develop important skills, they feel competent. We undermine competence when we don't allow young people to recover themselves after a fall.

Confidence: Young people need confidence to be able to navigate the world, think outside the box, and recover from challenges.

Connection: Connections with other people, schools, and communities offer young people the security that allows them to stand on their own and develop creative solutions.

Character: Young people need a clear sense of right and wrong and a commitment to integrity.

Contribution: Young people who contribute to the well-being of others will receive gratitude rather than condemnation. They will learn that contributing feels good and may therefore more easily turn to others, and do so without shame.

Coping: Young people who possess a variety of healthy coping strategies will be less likely to turn to dangerous quick fixes when stressed.

Control: Young people who understand privileges and respect are earned through demonstrated responsibility will learn to make wise choices and feel a sense of control.

Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg - Building Resilience from Community Parent Network

References:

Fostering Resilience, Building Resilience in Children and Teens--Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg http://buff.ly/1gk3tVj
Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg - URJ (audio files) http://buff.ly/1gk3ubN
Amazon.com: Kenneth R. Ginsburg: Books http://buff.ly/1gk3oRu